The dreaded line that no potential suitor wants to hear- “I’m just not ready for a relationship at the moment.” There are many reasons why she may need some time and patience, maybe she has recently left a long term relationship, perhaps the pressures of work are limiting the time she can dedicate to someone new and a fledgling relationship. Or maybe she is cautious and wants to get to know and understand you more before taking things to the next level. Whatever her reasons are, you must be respectful of her wishes, but there are a few things you can do to reassure her. Read on to discover our tips for bagging the girl of your dreams.
Be Patient, But Not for Too Long
There is a fine line between respecting her timescale and being a pushover, and it is important that you learn the difference between a genuine wish to slow things down, and someone who is playing you for a fool. You need to be sure that she is being genuine with you and not keeping you hanging on to massage her ego. You don’t want to find yourself in a situation a year later, where she is still demanding more time. There is a whole world out there, and life is too short to waste on someone who cannot be honest with you.
Women are cautious, and a little reassurance can go a long way. Perhaps she is worried that you may not be genuine, she may even doubt your intentions at this stage. But the way to handle this is not by being defensive. Instead, by being consistent with the message you are sending her you can gain her trust. Call when you say you will, be reliable, be spontaneous and romantic, make her realize that you are in it for the long haul and you do not see this as a short-term fling. Even the most self-assured women can have fleeting moments of insecurity, so don’t hold back on letting her know that you only have eyes for her.
Don’t be Pushy
There is nothing more unattractive than a man who is too pushy. This rule applies to all aspects of dating and should be noted and heeded at all times. If you try to push her to do something or enter a situation that she is uncomfortable with, she will instantly become nervous and concerned. There is no need to interrogate her on the why’s and what’s of her decision. She will immediately become defensive if you try to push the matter beyond her comfort zone. Give her space to explore her thoughts and feelings and let her feel like she is in control. Remember, the more you push someone to do something that they do not want to, the more they will rebel against it.