How to become a traditional Vietnamese suitor while dating in Vietnam? This is the question; every other man tries to find the response of. So, lets go deeper to find the most accurate response for this question.
The traditional roles of men and women
The men and the women have been allotted roles which they must follow at all costs. Any deviation from the prescribed path especially by women is frowned upon.
Dating in Vietnam
Historically the Vietnamese customs and etiquettes for dating are concentrated on tradition and class. The women are supposed to be dainty, submissive and quiet. Women generally do not date if it is not leading to marriage.
Initiating the relationship
The man has to initiate the Love affair. He has to show his interest in the woman. The consent of the parents and the family has to be acquired before the courting begins. Only if the family approves of the man can he take their daughter out for a date. If proper decorum is not observed it may lead to offending the girl’s family.
It is customary to give gifts to the girlfriend and her family. The man has to be very patient and resilient if he wants to win the heart of the parents of the cherished girl. The girl on the other hand also has to be calm and hope for the best. She cannot express her love or willingness publicly. She has to wait for her parents to give consent to the prospective bridegroom.
The first date
The first date should be purely platonic if you are in Vietnam. Going to the movies for the first meeting is socially unsuitable. The woman who goes to the movies on her first meeting with a man is considered to be Debauch. The ideal rendezvous would be to have a plutonic cup of coffee or walk in the park. Keeping in mind the old-fashioned society of Vietnam, the girl shall be accompanied by a mutual friend when she goes for her first date. The man should not try to make any physical contact with her to show his respect. Display of affection publically is looked down upon in the Vietnamese society.
The contribution of the woman
The woman’s responsibility is to play hard to get. She has to conceal her feelings for her companion/boyfriend. That is a way to find out if his intentions are moral or not.
Arranged marriages are a rarity in the modern Vietnamese culture. The marriages today are based on love and courtship but the traditions have to be given due consideration. The conventional ways of courtship are effective even today in Vietnam. However, if the man takes too long to propose to the woman of his choice, he might miss the opportunity!